I had to work today, so I came to the hospital at 3:15 pm and my mom was in the back waiting area behind closed doors. She was there with a chaplain. The chaplain said that Dr. McNutt (not a nickname) had told my mom that my dad had multi-system organ failure. His heart, lungs, kidney and liver are not functioning on their own anymore or are very weak and that they have to use medicine and his dosage only keeps going up. The chaplain continued and said the trauma team will keep doing what they are doing but soon the medicine will not work anymore and his organs may not be able to function on their own. His heart is weak because of his triple bypass and it is barely functioning correctly. They basically said that they would not rescicitate if his heart stops beating because of his severe internal damage he only has less then 1% chance of his heart to start beating again. The doctors are saying medicine can do so much the rest is up to Mr. V and right now his body is not well its only getting worse. He has total renal failure his kidneys are not working at all. They cannot tell us if his organs will be able to work on their own again only that the outlook is not good. We are going to be strong for my dad and see him as much as we can. We are going to talk to him and tell him we love him and not think of this as us saying goodbye but being with someone we love and giving him strength. I told my mom whatever happens to dad I know in my heart the doctors did all they could for him because these are the best doctors and nurses in Houston maybe even the world. I am cherishing every moment I can with my dad right now. Ugh this is really hard to type as my eyes get watery but I love my dad. He is a great dad and I know he has many "sons" and "daughters" out there whom he looked after as if he was their own dad. I never minded sharing him even though I am spoiled rotten, my dad had enough love to spread to everyone. I cannot be to sure what will happen to my dad but I do know I want to spend as much time as I can with him and tell him he is a good husband and father. Its out of my hands his fate but whatever it is I want him to know that lots of people love him and we want him here with us. His spirit is so strong but right now his body needs that strength and I know he is trying with all his might. So he had been stable for some days now but they had hoped he would get better and he hadn't.
He is now getting a new line again for his dialysis because it still is not working right. He is in IR right now so we are just waiting until later when we can go into see him again. Its hard for me to believe that this is it I am not accepting that because I cannot give up on dad and I have to be strong. I don't want him to think we have given up on him. I know he is not very responsive right now but I know he can hear us and sense our feelings. So I want to be there for him and be strong. My mom and I are strong women and we are just going to combine our strength and pray for the best. We love everyone and this is a brutally bleak and honest blog but we want you to know because we know you are concerned about Mr. V like we are. Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers.
14 comments:
It AIN'T over until God says it's over. We will keep prayiong for our beloved Uncle. And, that God continues to give ya'll (Tia Diana & Del) the strength and hope you need to carry on.
Love ya'll,
Mike & Anna
Sending prayers and much love to Mr. V, Tia D and you.
Merry
Thank you for the update. As you talk to your dad, please let him know that he has many, many friends that truly care for him. To those of us who worked with him, he is a good man, was a great boss, and a tremendous friend who never disrespected anyone. I have to agree with the previous post that says it’s not over until God says it’s over. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom thorough this most difficult time. God Bless.
Oh Del, I really hated to read this!! Thank you for being so honest with us all, but it is still so hard to accept. We will continue praying for your Dad, Tia Diana, you and Jonathan. This has definitely been a rough roller coaster ride!! I am praying that he comes back up again...I know he is fighting, but I also know his body is very weak. I am so sorry we could not be there today due to other committments that we could not get out of, but we will be there tomorrow evening. Love ya!
I refuse to believe this might be the end. He has been fighting now for way too long to let go. He has had and continues to have many prayers being sent up!!! Talk, talk, talk to him. Let him know that his journey on Earth has not ended. I love the two of you very much.
I feel for you all. Did not sleep very well last night, prayed alot for Roel. I still believe some way some how he is gonna make it. It will be a long journey, but he is not alone, he is in Jesus arms. Hang in the Sis. Luv you all.
Delena, Please don't give up. Your dad is a strong man. He is a fighter!! Please don't stop telling him how much you love him. Please tell him how much i love him too. He always told me how much faith he had in me and how i can pull through my obstacles in life. He has inspired me through all the years i have known him. I consider him my 2nd dad..i am not giving up on him.. I know i am not there but my heart is with him, you and Mrs. V. I love you guys. Give Mr.V (dad) a kiss for me on his forehead and please tell him it's from me...thank you so much...Lisa De La Paz..
Thinking of you, your Mom, and Mr. V. Praying for you as well.
We know this has to be very hard on your whole family. May God's blessings be with you and may He give you the strength and hope to carry on. You have our prayers and our love.
Janie and Richard Perales
Delena - tell your dad that Nicholas and I love him. He has been so strong throughout this ordeal. We are praying for your father. He has beat the odds before and can do it again.
Love you,
Kathy
As difficult as this must be for you and your mom,and with all the prayers everyone has for your dad, I wish to send you and mom a prayer. I pray that God recognizes you both for your strength and resolve and that He grants you peace for your love and devotion.
You are both an inspiration; you have helped me remember that there is good in humanity and that love is strengh. God be with you all.
EU
A sick man turned to his doctor as he was preparing to
Leave the examination room and said,
'Doctor, I am afraid to die.
Tell me what lies on the other side.'
Very quietly, the doctor said, 'I don't know..'
'You don't know? You're, a Christian man,
and don't know what's on the other side?'
The doctor was holding the handle of the door;
On the other side came a sound of scratching and whining,
And as he opened the door, a dog sprang into the room
And leaped on him with an eager show of gladness.
Turning to the patient, the doctor said,
'Did you notice my dog?
He's never been in this room before.
He didn't know what was inside.
He knew nothing except that his master was here,
And when the door opened, he sprang in without fear.
I know little of what is on the other side of death,
But I do know one thing..
I know my Master is there and that is enough.'
We run the race with all that we have until God says that it is over. Mr. V is still running and so is your mother and you. You keep going. We are praying for you and cheering you on. We love you.
we know this must be so hard for you! keep your spirits up. your dad needs you to. we're praying for you and cheering your dad on. he is so strong, and we believe in him!
love,
gwendolyn and jay